I'm not big on discipline and neither was he. I'm much more focused on talking and showing affection. I think that way you can understand your children a lot better. In Stella's case, we've had an easy ride, but now she's entering a new stage. I've had experience with my other children, Alexander and Dakota. Alexander's 22, and lives his own life in New York where he's studying music. But they both suffered. It's the hormones!

[Stella] wants independence and thinks she's right for it. It's a balancing act. I think discipline which kids don't understand properly leads them to distance themselves even faster and more radically. Having said that, I don't believe in being their friend. You've got to go gently, but you've got to go carefully.